From ME to WE

Corporate America, the work world, especially process of mergers and acquisitions is riddled with unresolved and often on going conflicts ---inter-personally and in the work situations. Rank has no relation to this steady enemy of success. It’s across the spectrum of corporate work, organizations and family.

It is a me-me, mine-mine notion of significance instead of a “we” and “our” mindset. The divorce rate and failure of job loyalty and job satisfaction statistics blast these issues loud and clear. To date few remedies have worked.

In our consulting practice of working with high conflict, (2 out 3 statistical failure rate families stepfamilies) we have developed conflict management and dramatically different resolution management tools. Experts believe these should have a larger out reach.

They entail Seven System Based Solutions.

They are strategically based on the work of the great Middle Eastern poet, Rumi,

“All wars and conflicts are cased by not honoring the other’s differences.”

We live in a litigious RIGHT/WRONG culture.

In marital relationships 60% of issues never get resolved. People just manage conflict well, and go on and work it out.

This hold true for work or in a relationship.

What kills marriages is not the lack of conflict, but how the conflict is resolved.

People ending to:

1. use anger
2. criticize
3. stone wall
4. And withdraw…in more than half of their transactions fail----at marriage fail to get the job done at work.

The Seven System Based Solutions utilize a concept called:

MY REALITY IS…..

1. Reality, truth, is akin to a nation’s history.

The same war is described and reasoned depending on the country you live in.

Growing up in the South you would think, feel, and see the Civil War differently that one would in the North.

2. Eliminate the word YOU you’re wrong, you did

3. Use I see, Hear, Feel…..my reality is…

4. Allow the other time to finish

5. Give equal air time

6. A decision not to decide is a decision, now

7. Show respect for differences….Indeed HONOR differences

Good relationships are based on respect. No respect to ability to resolve conflict. To arrive at success

LEFT OVERS in Relationships we may have A and B point of view. Often we must create one we both agree on a “C reality” and some time our “c reality is to agree to disagree.